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Note from TBF:


"I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn."
Leo Buscaglia

For me it's been a particularly challenging couple of weeks - there have been times when I just wanted to pull the covers over my head and say 'not today!'  And each day I remember that there are amazing individuals living that day without any of the love, support, or resources that I have available to me.  And so, I take a deep breath, spend some quiet time putting things in alignment, giving thanks for all my blessings, and roll out of bed to give a damn another day.  Have you ever had one of those days?  Here are some words from John Pavlovitz, reminding us that we're not alone.




It’s exhausting to give a damn isn’t it?

 And not one of those manual base models, either. I went high-end, top of the line; full upper arm cuff, automated pressure, digital readout—the works. I soon stopped using it though, as it was a daily reminder of how stressed I was. I don’t look at it any longer. I don’t measure my blood pressure anymore. Now I just assume it’s dangerously high.


 Sure, speed and activity can mask it for a while, but if you stop long enough, the reality of the fatigue catches up to you—you can measure the toll it’s all taken on you. I want you to measure it. I want you reckon with how tired you are. I want you to hear yourself exhale with the heavy sigh of someone who feels the weight of it all.

 There is in your body and head and in your midst, a collateral damage to you giving a damn when others do not, and it manifests itself in many ways: in irritability, impatience, physical illness, eating emotionally, addictive behavior, the inability to be present to the people who love you, an obsession with social media, a fixation on how jacked up everything is.

 It will still be there when you return, and you’ll be better able to face it.

 If you’re not exhausted right now your empathy is busted.